Fighting Our Own Demons

 Growing up, I experienced a fearful voice telling me to leave if I felt a sense of love or affection. This fear led to unreliable and selfish behavior, such as never making plans or leaving events mid-sentence. The fear was that I liked the people I was infatuated with, but the voice told me to look for better options. This inner devil kept pushing me away from intimate relationships, and I spent the next decade acting insane to cope with my feelings.

OUR INSIDE MONSTERS

All of us have demons, or aspects of ourselves that we prefer not to face but that we know are there. These parts of us lead us to act selfishly and irrationally, not out of love for ourselves but rather out of fear for ourselves. However much we try to keep our demons hidden, they always lurk there, boiling to the surface and leaking out from under the mask we put on them. And the more our lives become messed up, the harder we try to keep that lid down. To forget our demons, we get stoned or intoxicated. We use employment or competition as a diversion from our demons.

We behave badly toward others in order to mask our irrational worry that they may do the same to us in the future.

Anything to ward off the devils...

It's likely that you have faced your inner demons at some point; you may have loathed yourself for your foolish actions or resisted feelings of remorse or rage. You've made promises to yourself that you'll put the vodka away at last or that you won't listen to that inner voice.

Laziness is one of the demons I still battle. We're all lazy slobs at least occasionally, but if I'm not careful, my battle with my own "usefulness" in this world frequently descends into a lonely and gloomy place. I have a tendency to be really hard on myself when I put things off. I'm a no good, lazy sack of trash, and I have a tendency to be fairly hard on myself. I assume that everyone is doing well and getting better every day, except for me. After many years, I see now how illogical this notion is. Even still, there's that tiny voice within telling me that since nobody else struggles to stay motivated, I must be a loser of some kind.

Demons begin as self judgments such as "you're dirty, lazy, stupid, unlovable, etc."

Then, we make every effort to disprove that judgment and evade that judgment. Six times, we clean the garage. Our workdays consist of eleven hours. At the neighborhood ice rink, we take home a blue ribbon. I am cool and nice, like I said! Look! Take a look at me! However, this avoidance eventually turns detrimental to oneself. Rather than taking your children home from school, you clean the garage once more. You work so late that on the way home, you nod off. Your lover walks out on you, yelling, "You never wanted me!" due to the fact that you are preoccupied with skating rink blue ribbons. All you wanted was someone to observe your skating!

Even worse, your monster persists despite your best efforts to refute it. The monster of idleness never lets me feel good about myself. One of my wife's demons is the cleaning demon; she can never feel like things are tidy or well-organized enough. Regardless all your efforts, the devil remains unsatisfied. Hence, your only option is to divert your attention from the devil or, worse, give in.

These days, I often find myself in a slump where I play video games for three to four days in a row, detesting the fact that I'm doing it.

Our demons become a form of self-loathing in this way. You feel stuck and helpless. You are unable to prevail. Regardless of your level of success, you are unable to refute the demon. But when you give up and fall short, all you do is validate the devil's claim. All of a sudden, that vodka sounds rather nice.yet there must be a more effective approach to get over this demon.

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Break And Flow Beyond The Length Of The Chains

By no means permit worry, procrastination or the yearning for approval from others to take possession of your mind, they become self-solid chains.


Have you ever experienced a second in your existence wherein you questioned "What to do next?"

Have you ever had a bolt of self assurance spring into your being simply as you have been going to begin running in the direction of a brand new goal, but your consolation region held you returned?

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you say, "it's miles now or never!" However, you did not make your pass?

If you responded "sure" to any of the above questions, you at one time wore the self-cast chains.

I assume we all have, or at the least wore the self-forged chains in our lives at one time or another. However, we don't have to be paralyzed and enchained by way of the set styles that have been given to us by the world.

There is an antique African story that asserts, "in case you take a toddler elephant, place a chain round one of its back legs, hook the chain to a stake, after which drive that stake into the ground to restrain the child elephant until it is large sufficient to fend for itself.

Whilst the caretaker eliminates both the stake and the chain from the elephant's back leg, the elephant will no longer project out past the period of the chain that once limited him. The tale is going on to mention that the elephant has been conditioned to accept residency in a intellectual prison given to him by using his caretaker."

We have all heard the vintage adage "An elephant never forgets," and this story is a top example of the way an elephant's capability to no longer overlook can do extra damage than assist.

Via my statement of human beings for the duration of existence, the equal component occurs to people. We come to be conditioned to accept as true with that we can best go afar as our chains will extend. we're conditioned to agree with things like: "no one in my circle of relatives ever graduated from university," "We grew up on this form of neighborhood - this is it," "i was born to fail," "i am broken items,"

 "My life is one large comic story," "i am a realist, no longer a dream chaser.

Why must I attempt to break unfastened from the chains? Why must I try to drag up the stake? Why must I set myself as much as fail?"

I ask you, "Why not?"

If failure were not an option, could you positioned out greater attempt?

If cash weren't a problem, will you be taking greater risks?

Is there any person higher acceptable and deserving of achievement than you?
The bestselling novelist and the unpublished writer both have the equal dictionary full of words to work with. The difference is one took movement even as the alternative went through the motions.

The most successful entrepreneur and the get-wealthy-brief visionary both have the same primary competencies and assets to work with. The difference is one is inclined to evolve via a procedure at the same time as the opposite is seeking out the subsequent brief deal.
And there's almost no seen distinction among the fastest sprinter in the global and one who finishes last. They each run the race by using the identical rules; yet, the winner is the only dedicated to win. The winner is the athlete who does what it takes, who trains on a daily basis, who provides a touch extra effort to every workout, who can visualize crossing the end line beforehand of the relaxation.

I ask you once more, "Why not you?"

Mahatma Gandhi said, "you can chain me, you may torture me, you can even destroy this body, however you'll by no means imprison my mind."

All of us will enjoy distinctive demanding situations and instances throughout life, a few more demoralizing or traumatizing than others. I inspire you even within the midst of uncertainty and depression to never permit the chains of complacency to imprison you. We should preserve to put our basis stones, inch with the aid of inch, together, until the entire chain breaks giving way to new birth and opportunity to our future.

You have got what it takes to achieve greatness in some thing you choice. Inside you is the capacity for exquisite accomplishment. Do now not voluntarily chain your self to the stake. in case you are chained proper now - put it up, via it away and pass forward! nobody is better suited for achievement than you. See every achievement as a stepping stone to more things.

When challenges rise up, and they may, smile and say, "this is great due to the fact ________." Then discover a way to pass the finish line in advance of the rest.

Greet your destiny along with your eyes open, your head held high, a waft on your stride and no mind of regret - achievement is there for you!

Do not forget: from time to time you have to take motion due to the fact YOU realize it's the proper thing to do. due to the fact YOU choose not to succumb to limits set for you through the arena. because you realize your lifestyles isn't a dress rehearsal.

Go beforehand — Break and flow beyond
the length of the Chains!

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IGNITING THE BURNING DESIRE TO SUCCEED

Growing up as a kid with different promises and aspirations is the best thing that can ever happen to a man. The memories of yesterday sitting with friends and family to discuss life issues as we would like to become the best medical doctor, businessman, Engineer, Lawyer, etc. began to pass off when we are faced with real life experience.

Some thoughts are normal at the stage owing to the fact that we are still under our parents and guardians, has little or no responsibility for ourselves.
Life is a mystery. It can give happiness and joy to some of us or give pain, struggle and disappointment to few of us. We grow up in a rich family where life becomes easier with the financial capability to care for our needs while some of us have to battle with poverty. We can't question how some things go on in life. Life may throw challenges, disappointment and pain and it can as well make all the good things life can offer. It's your choice to remain poor.

I don't believe in most people who settle for less. I have realized that people often blame their parents or the Creator of the world, for their misfortune and sufferings.
I have had people who said " I am from a poor family and I can't make it in life like the people from the rich home" You can understand how people buried their destiny, dreams and aspirations by what they believed. They allege that they have been cheated by nature to come from a poor family.

I have known people dreams are destroyed by dream killer but people their own dreams by settling for less in life.
You can turn around every situation in your liveliness. Your family background does not matter, your educational background has zero to do with it, you don't need any connection.

Life in its literal sense does not offer all good things on a platter of gold, it is not a proceed of laziness or weakness. You have got to work hard with persistence, commitment and determination to achieve all the good things life can extend.

You can accomplish greatness and change the story of your family.
We may say no member of our family has achieved greatness in business, academics, work and so on but the generational history can be rewritten by our actions and our inaction will keep us in perpetual disappointment and suffering.
Every man is born great. Nevertheless, discovering this greatness is a task we must embark upon to unveil the blessings and riches we crave for.
I never thought that I could finish secondary school and even attend high institution of learning. At one stage in my life, I have had to drop out of school and pursue an apprenticeship in motorcycle repair. I have friends and family begging me to go to school, but I have made up my mind not to tread the academic line, not because I was not good academically but because of peer pressure. I had acquaintances in the trade and I saw the little money they get and spend on women. They command some level of deference from the ladies. I fancied the motorcycles they ride. I got carried off and I wanted to be like them. I started, but I couldn't grasp anything, I decided I wanted to learn barbing, and my older sister who has been my support will pay for the apprenticeship fee and other things that might be required. Despite the advised from other friends and family I have decided it's apprenticeship, but I have been a failure in all the trades I have desired to learn, I couldn't even repair a motorcycle or barb. It came to a stage that I had to retrace my steps and I did a soul search. I discovered that I cannot succeed in my pursuit to learn these trades at that time.
I went back and conform to my sister and father and I told them that I needed to go back to school and I got their support. I began schooling and I completed my secondary education. It was time for me to further and I did it by myself because my father and sister couldn't afford to sponsor my education to high institution. That didn't dissuade me from going to high institution. I've just been working and going to school. And it became part of life, even when it was really difficult. I won because I set clear goals and was determined to achieve them. I was constantly looking at the larger picture and I looked at where I was coming from, I persisted, I was committed to my goals, dreams and aspirations. Even though I am not where I am suppose to be but I still appreciate where I am today.

Tales abound of people who have achieved greatness in their life pursuit. The most interesting stories in life is the story of small beginnings.
When you pop out from nothing and you achieved greatness. You have become a mentor to somebody, You have written your name in gold. You will be used as an example to prompt others who seek success.

Abraham Lincoln did it and you will not be an exclusion. He's a good example of persistence for success. He was born in poverty and had to deal with defeat throughout his life. His family was forced out of their home and he had to work to support them, he later lost his job. He wanted to go to law school but couldn't get in.

His mother died. He lost elections, eight times, failed twice in business and was bankrupted, suffered a nervous breakdown and was bedridden for six months. He could have quit many times but that was not an option. He turned one of the greatest presidents in America.
Success is not measured by how much you have in your bank account but the number of times you have failed, stand up, dust yourself and move on.




What do you really want in life?  Do you aspire to attend the best schools and achieve the best education in life?  Do you want to become a name  to be reckoned within the commercial enterprise or corporate world?  Do you desire to experience the happiest married life and family?  What is your biggest dream?
Soar like an eagle who never give up. Go after your dreams with passion, hard work, persistence, commitment and pray fervently, and life is going to say, Yes to you.
You must keep good companies that will move you to your dreams. People, especially your beloved ones are they dream killers who would want to discourage you. They would  say all manner of things to make you settle for less like them as they've lost hope of attaining their  dreams.

Read biography of people who have accomplished success in your chosen career or area of interest to get motivated. Define clear and achievable goals for yourself and follow them with your God given strengths.
Begin the journey with a footprint, you might not have all the resources required for the business, school, building, marriage and any other purpose you desire. Do not seek help from anybody. The help you seek would come from someone who will notice your efforts and commitment to your goals and dreams and is willing to help you succeed.

Many of us give up early in life when it's almost a mile to get to our destination in life. Never give up until it is over. Success is yours!!!

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Diary Of Katung: Self-Discovery, Determination and Persistence

It all started in the suburb of southern Kaduna State, Nigeria. Katung was born into a middle class family of seven. He started his early education in the local authority primary school and proceeded to a Government owned institution for secondary education. However, his academic pursuit suffered a setback when his father who worked at a textile factory left his employment with the renowned textile company ten years ago to his hometown.

Life took a dramatic turn for Katung who was known to be a brilliant student by friends and family and won various class and school quiz. His father could no longer finance his education as such his uncle who saw how brilliant Katung was decided that he should come back to the city to continue his education.

Katung joined his uncle in the city and was admitted in one of the public schools to continue his secondary education. He had his senior school certificate and when it was time to proceed to the University, Katung had decided that he did not want to further his education. His uncle could not believe the sudden development.

There was series of family meeting to persuade Katung to continue his education but he insisted on venturing into business. Katung had met with some friends who were into charcoal business and developed interest in the business.

His intention to go into business received no support from neither his uncle or any member of his family. He took up menial job in an envelope production factory and later worked at a sachet water production factory where he met Ada, she was a very pretty girl from the Middle-belt region of the country. They became very close lovers and he told about his interests in the charcoal business. Initially, she advised him to consider education against going into business at the moment. He insisted that his passion lies in the charcoal business.

Two months later, Katung was thrown out of his uncle's home as claimed that the purpose for which he accepted him into his come has been thwarted and Katung should fend for himself.

He stayed with some friends for sometime before he got his one room apartment. His relationship with Ada waxed stronger during this time and she was very supportive.

Few months later, Ada payed him a surprised as she had told him that she had travelled to her village. Katung was still sleeping in his one room apartment when he heard a knock on his door. He opened the door to found Ada dressed in a long red gown which displayed her hips and pointed chest. With a lovely smile on her face she kissed Katung and wished him happy birthday. Katung suddenly realized that it was birthday.

Sitting in the room glued to each other like siamese  twins, she whispered into his ears; "honey, I got something for you". Katung with his arms around her waist responded: "and what could that be?" She continued, "you will start your charcoal business next week, here is one hundred thousand naira I had saved for my studies, you can go ahead with your business".

Katung was shocked and asked her If she meant it. She said that like his passion and determination and that is her little sacrifice for him.

Katung contacted his associates in the charcoal business and weeks later, he started the business. Soon he had grown wide customer based and within a year he increased his supplies with millions going into his bank account. During this time he had engaged Ada for marriage and visited Ada's parent to introduced himself.

He made arrangement for her schooling. She was admitted into one of the Federal universities in Nigeria in the  Northern part of the country.

Few months before Ada's graduation, they got wedded in a Pentecostal church located in the ancient city of Zaria in Kaduna State. The wedding attracted big wigs from all works of life as he had made contacts from his business.

It was on cool Monday morning, Katung was still preparing for the day's business when his phone rang. A Chinese firm based in Hong Kong has ordered for the supply of five trucks of charcoal.

The Chinese firm received their order three days later as Katung made sure he offered prompt and quality service to his clients. He got several dollars for the deal and he soon established his company and employed workers.

Ada remained the supportive woman she had being and already had a babyboy. Katung got admitted into one of the Federal universities in the Northern part of the country where he ran his business and studies concurrently.

They had a family reunion party with his uncles, aunts, sisters, brothers and both parents in attendance.

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