How To Move On After A Toxic Relationship

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You discover yourself in a situation where your bad relationship is now behind you. For some people, it's like the end of their lives while others make concentrate effort to move on with their lives. What is your next action?

Some people are faced with a common temptation when moving out of a toxic relationship. Usually, it's the desire to look back or dwell on the past. You will be distracting yourself and  it makes you to second guess your bold decision.

There are basically four (4) steps which will help you to resist the temptation to have a second guess when you decide to move on;

• Do Away With Items That May Trigger Memories of Your Ex;

Keeping items like gifts and pictures of your ex that remind you of them will not help you develop the mental and emotional intelligence you need to move on with clarity and renewed purpose. You need to get rid of them altogether or remove them away from your everyday sight. Moreover, It is important for you to not have constant reminders lurking around everywhere you look as you start the important work of self-healing.

•  Be Open To New Relationships;

Now that you’ve taken the bold step and turned the page to a new chapter it will be necessary for you to keep your mind and heart open and clear as you move on. Remind yourself as often as possible of the thought that in order for someone amazing to come into your life, someone else must first leave. Yes, you do not have to dwell in the past and allow yourself to suffer in silence with low-esteem. You've got to move on.

The mistake some people make is to dwell in the past and not move on, You think that you will not find someone like your ex. You need to be proud of yourself for having the courage to create that space and commit to only allow it to be refilled with bright and positive new possibilities. You don't need to deny yourself the best life can afford by dwelling in a toxic relationship. You are special and someone out there, need your love.

• Replace Thoughts of Regrets With Validations Of Your Personal Strengths and Assets;

You have probably found yourself in a  situation where you have broken up with your ex and because you always felt bad about your decision to love in the first place or why you did not  stay in  the  toxic relationship, your ex sees you as a garbage  and  would play on your emotions. Helping yourself from your toxic relationship was in itself a show of strength and you can pat yourself on the back for that. On a small piece of paper, Write down at least 5 empowering and positive qualities you believe you possess. Keep that list somewhere that you visit at least once a day. You may decide to keep the list on the bedside table, bathroom mirror or fridge. Seeing this often will be a constant reminder to you to continue to look forward as you keep the heart open for the right person, who will truly value you, to come into your life.

• Write A Short List of The Benefits of Moving On;

Aside the list you just created listing your personal strengths and assets, create additional lists of the benefits of you having moved on so that reading this daily will equip you to know that you didn’t make a mistake in leaving that relationship behind. For instance, you can write down one of the benefits stating that “I have decided to get myself attached to someone who constantly treat me bad” or “I have enough money for myself since I no longer provide monetary assistance to my ex". You will be propelled to start a new relationship with clear goals.

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